Divorce is something that can happen suddenly because of infidelity or trust issues, or it may occur over the course of many years as a result of incompatibility or neglect. Regardless of why your marriage is ending, you need the guidance of an experienced divorce attorney. Your lawyer can protect your rights and advocate for your best interests.
Depending on the circumstances of your divorce, you may have to live with your soon-to-be-ex during the process — something that is easier said than done. However, if you can swallow your pride, keep your head down and avoid conflict until the end, you will avoid contention as well as wasted time and money.
Here are some tips on cohabitating with someone you are also divorcing:
- Define your own space — If either of you are going to survive the road ahead, there needs to be some level of basic communication. Start by defining the space or rooms you would like to use for the duration of the divorce process. You may also want to lay out a schedule for when you plan on using certain communal rooms such as the kitchen, bathroom, TV room, office, etc.
- Allocate parenting duties — If going through a divorce is difficult, divorcing with kids is an even greater challenge. You can make the task surmountable by dividing and conquering responsibilities. This means working as a team to get parenting duties done efficiently. Again, you may want to create a parenting schedule that details which parent is covering each task on a weekly basis.
- Figure out finances — You need to put your differences aside and determine your household budget. You may want to split certain expenses such as gas, groceries, etc.
- Respect each other — The bottom line is that you are getting a divorce. How painful, time-consuming, and costly the process ultimately comes down to you. If you are going to share a space together, you need to respect each other, especially if you have kids. This does not mean you need to like or even talk to one another.
Marriages fail for a variety of reasons. Sometimes, one person is at fault, sometimes both. And sometimes, no one is to blame at all. However, you can reduce stress and expedite the process by retaining the services of a skilled divorce lawyer.
Contact compassionate divorce lawyers in Hollister
Giuliano Law has more than two decades of experience working with divorce clients throughout Hollister, Santa Clara, Santa Cruz, Monterey, and San Benito counties. Whether you are seeking or facing a divorce in California, our respected legal team is ready to advocate for your rights. Call (831) 257-8692 or contact us today to discuss your case with an experienced divorce attorney.